How to Call a Parent to Apologize
Know what you did wrong.By reflecting on what you did and knowing what specifically you've done wrong, you can show that you are actually sorry. Sorry means nothing unless you're willing to learn from the situation you're apologizing for.
Create the right mindset.Let go of past resentments - forgive or forget. This is a sign of maturity and distinguishes you from a great individual who is free from negative energy.
Decide on what you are going to say.Be ready to face any frustration with courage and calmness.
Make sure your apology is sincere and shows your reflection.Hearing a non-apology is worse than no apology at all. A non-apology is an "apology" that sounds as if it is blaming the other person, such as, "I'm sorry you got mad," which places the blame onthe other personfor getting mad. Apologize for whatyoudid, and avoid placing the blame on the other person. It is recommended that you use "I" statements. For example, say something like, "I was wrong to break the lamp. I was really angry, but that's no excuse to break something. I'm really sorry."
Figure out if your parent is a night or morning person.Don't call at night if they're a morning person, and don't call in the morning if they always wake up on the wrong side of the bed. Also avoid calling them during times you know are busy for them.
Avoid interrupting what the parent is doing.If you know they're out doing something, like going to the movies or shopping, hold off on calling. If you don't live with them, it's harder to know, so answer with, "Hi, Mom/Dad, are you busy right now?" If they are, ask when you can call back.
Plan what you would like to say in your apology and speak clearly.Instead of saying, "Um, I'm sorry 'cause I made you mad, and... um... sorry," say, "I've thought about my actions and I've realized that I was wrong for the way I acted. I want to apologize. In the future, I will try my best to keep my feelings and actions under control."
Avoid turning the table on the other person after apologizing.Don't say, "I'm sorry for stealing your bracelet, but this never would've happened if you kept it somewhere else!" If youhaveto mention something, it's best to keep it about how they can help you deal with whatever problem you had. Remember to stay tactful.
Sound courteous and sweet, avoiding defensive, accusatory, or frustrated tones.If you find that you're still angry about what happened, try cooling down some more before you call them. Try asking if you can calmly and blamelessly discuss the situation after apologizing, so that you both can better deal with similar situations in the future.
Tell them you love them.It's always nice to remind them that you don't hate them just because of some silly argument or a stupid action of yours. It also aids with cooling down a situation.
Take steps to stop that behavior from happening in the future.Sorry is meaningless if you're going to keep doing it and don't learn from your actions.
Listen to everything they have to say without getting defensive.Honestly listen and consider whether what they're saying is true. If it is, then acknowledge it and keep note of it. If it isn't, consider calmly explaining your side. If they're adamant about something that just isn't true, say something like, "I'll be more aware of what I say and do in the future."
Get your parent to understand your reasoning.If you help them understand what you're thought process was upon an action, they will not only be more likely to forgive you but will understand you more. Note-justifying an action is entirely different than explaining it.
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- Be civil to them and treat them with respect, and they will do the same to you
- Should an argument start up about it, calmly say that you just called to apologize and that, although you're willing to talk about what happened, you're not interested in fighting. Make it clear that you're looking for solutions.
- Offering to take them out to a meal or fun activity could help smooth things over, if you live within close proximity to your parents. Otherwise, try sending them a fun email, letter, or package afterward. You could also try having a lighthearted webcam session on your computer.
- Make sure you are honest and sincere; parents can always tell when their kids are lying.
- If you reacted a certain way because they did a certain thing, you'll want to bring it up tactfully and in a mature way. For example, if you yelled at them because they kept arguing and wouldn't let you cool down, you might say: "I was wrong for the way that I acted, and I apologize. I let my feelings get out of control, and that is why I yelled. I think it would help me in the future if I could walk away from an argument to cool down, so that we could discuss the situation rationally and solve it instead of fighting."
- Apologize because you mean to, not because you expect an apology in return.
- Sometimes parents don't always react the way you expect them to, and it can take some time for them to forgive you and for you to earn their trust back. Some are stubborn and don't listen. Tailor your apology and message to how you feel your parent would receive it best.
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