How to behave with a lover?
In life there are situations where a woman becomes the mistress of a married man or, being married, has a lover. We will not go into moral and ethical issues, because everyone should do it himself. We just analyze the behavior of women and tell you how to behave with her lover.
It is important to decide what kind of relationship you are impressed with and what you can offer him at the moment.
Together, so far both are good.
If you are not going to stay with this person for the rest of your life, then you need to build light relationships without preparing a foundation for your future family. However, you still want to see love in the eyes of your partner and enjoy his respect and affection.
- Talk less with him about your life that exists without him. Moreover, it is not necessary to discuss close people, talking about them badly.
- If a lover asks what to give to you - do not be too modest. Feel free to ask for expensive things, of course, within its capabilities (or just a little higher than them).
- How to lead with a lover? Do not bind him too much so that this relationship can be broken without difficulty.
- Do not let daily issues decide for you.It is unacceptable that the lover dictated to the lady how to dress, or how often to visit the hairdresser. However, there are exceptions. If the partner incurs financial expenses on the maintenance of the mistress, he has the right to influence some decisions.
Today - mistress, tomorrow - wife
If you expect to build long-term relationships with a partner and become his wife, the behavior strategy should be different. It is required to make it clear to the lover that you have a shared future and your priorities are consonant with its values.
Do not cause jealousy in her lover. Some women can not live without keeping a partner in good shape. They are trying in every way to create an ambiguous situation and present their man, if not an opponent, then at least an appearance of it. This behavior only alienates you from your partner. He, even being jealous, will feel that you are not his woman. Therefore, jealousy can only be caused by past events or people in your life. That is, to make it clear that the person who loved you is now far away.
How to behave with a lover? Try to plan your future with it. If you are going to make a large purchase, consult with him and try to create the appearance that this thing is bought for him too.For example, a sofa in the living room should not only overlap with the color of curtains and wallpaper. It should be comfortable for the rest together, where your partner will feel comfortable.
It is important to create a common social circle. Simply put, make common friends. Let them take you exclusively as a couple. Invite them to yourself or come to visit them only together. And the more you have such friends - the better.
If a lover - miser
Separately, I want to dwell on a situation where a lover does not want to spend money on gifts and help his woman financially. How to behave with a lover, if he is a miser? Favorite man who spares the money to buy for the ladies is a pitiful sight. It is important to establish relationships right away so that he cannot buy you a pair of gloves as a gift.
- You need not be afraid to talk about what you want to get. Men do not know how, they do not feel your mood as well as women. In addition, it is easier for a man to pretend that everything is normal, unless you convince him otherwise.
- Do not try to cook him a delicious dinner, if he did not give you money for food. Tell me you would like to try lobsters.Let him think that it is better to take you to a restaurant, or buy groceries in a supermarket. That is, give him the opportunity to save money, but without leaving the framework you have outlined.
- Shopping make together. It is very difficult to choose something cheaper if there is a woman nearby whose opinion he is not indifferent to.
Do not forget that your lover is an ordinary man. And, regardless of whether you love him, he has flaws. Try to soberly assess its disadvantages, do not constantly wear rose-colored glasses. Then disappointment will not suddenly cover you, and life will always delight and delight.